The trend in the feminist movement in regards to a healthy body image is to be body positive, instead of body shameful (or shaming). But what does that mean, exactly? Should you love your flaws so hard you never do anything about them? Should you do anything about them? Are they really even flaws? And what about the fact that body positive is STILL appearance-focused? Is it okay to be obese? Is it okay to be underweight? Does it encourage eating disorders and body dysmorphia? Does it encourage women to be naked and promiscuous? Are feminists trying to ruin men? Are we all still so fucking obsessed???
I wanted to see what people were saying about body positivity. But, like feminism itself, a simple beautiful notion has to be interpreted a thousand different ways on the internet and crusaded for and against, sometimes thoughtfully, but often angrily, with some ulterior motive or agenda behind the screed. It's really no wonder America has reached such an apex of hatred and ridiculousness. When we cannot even agree on a basic definition to begin with, communication breaks down and intent becomes lost in the loaded baggage of miserable bigmouths.
The actual definition of the feminist body-positive movement is as follows:
"The body positive movement is a feminist movement that encourages people to adopt more forgiving and affirming attitudes towards their bodies, with the goal of improving overall health and well-being."
I think that is pretty clear, don't you?
Body positive doesn't mean saying "men don't like skinny bitches" or "real women have curves." Body positive doesn't mean attacking other women for features you perceive as "fake." Body positive certainly is not being sedentary and overeating, plunging yourself into a host of medical conditions and insisting you are beautiful for it. Body positive has nothing to do with how much or how little you cover up, show off, or even have sex. It doesn't say anyone is obligated to find you attractive or unattractive. It simply means we should value our health and well-being over tearing ourselves apart, trying to fit an ideal shape or size. End. Of. Fucking. Story.
When I talk about body positivity on this website, the above bold definition is what I am talking about. I'm saying we should all have a goal of health, fitness and well-being. We have to stop thinking that some body "type" or physical feature makes us "fit" or "perfect" or has the power to break our spirit. We have the ability to change the things we can and hopefully we can have the acceptance to let go of the things we cannot.
PLAIN JANE? BAD BITCH? GOODY GOODY? VAMP? DO YOU, BOO. DO YOU. THERE'S ROOM FOR ALL SHAPES, SIZES, AND STYLES AT THE TABLE. BE AUTHENTIC AND RADIATE YOUR REALNESS TO FREE THE OTHERS.
Wear makeup or don't. Be thick or thin, tall or short. Get fake tits or don't. Wear as much or as little as you like. Take care of your mind and your body and they will take care of you. Positivity doesn't happen when we all stand around arguing what that's supposed to look like - it happens when we start working towards our own goals and learning along the way, then inspiring other women to be awesome, too!
Positivity is a journey, not a destination, as our bodies change with time. It's about striving to be healthy and happy and radiating your realness. You are worthy because of what you bring to the table, not because of arbitrary body parts.
So don't listen to all that noise going on about what you have to do (or not do) to be body positive. Just love yourself enough to take care of your body, and go from there.